I was so saddened to hear of Nora Ephron’s passing. As a writer, producer and director, Nora made us laugh and made us cry. Her movie career began with a drama and ended with a gem about a blogger (Julie & Julia), but it was her romantic comedies that drew me in the most. Her version of the chick flick was romantic and hilarious but with a touch of realism and heart. We could relate to her characters and their relationships or lack thereof.
My admiration of Ephron began with When Harry Met Sally in 1989. I loved everything about this film, the burning question of whether men and women can be friends without sex getting in the way, the banter between Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan and the moment when Harry says to Sally “I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
The other movie by Ephron that I watch repeatedly is 1998’s You’ve Got Mail with Tom Hanks and again, Meg Ryan. Back in the internet day, we’d turn on our computers and first hear a buzzing, then a screeching and finally the wonderfully perky “you’ve got mail!” and that’s how we knew we were online. The plot was about a man, a woman, an independent bookstore and a big box book emporium. Man and woman email anonymously (via AOL of course) about life, business and The Godfather. Woman’s AOL handle was Shopgirl and this is one of three reasons my handle is MauiShopGirl. The love story that ensues under imperfect circumstances against the backdrop of New York City and swoon, books, ensured it was destined to speak to me.
Nora Ephron may have started out as a journalist and made her mark in Hollywood as both a director and producer, but it was her ability to inject humor and satire into her story telling and observations of life that touched me as both a woman and a writer. Her book of essays, “I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being A Woman” was witty yet relatable. Ephron chronicled her life and female tribulations about age, grooming and accessories with a candid voice and brillant dry humor that I can only aspire to.
Dear Ms. Ephron,
Although we’ve never met, you were always there for me in film, print and spirit and I will miss you. If I become even ten percent the writer you were, I will feel blessed.
Peace & love….Tania