I first stumbled upon One on Decor8 and fell in love immediately. One is a beautifully written, photographed and textured book by Victoria Alexander of Australia.
“I originally decided to write One because I wanted to offer a means by which ones could feel connected to others living in this way. Living alone is not the same as feeling alone. This grew to wanting to acknowledge the value of and to encourage appreciation of individuality and a sense of self no matter how you live. It’s possible to be lonelier in a relationship than without one. I felt it was time divorcees, widows and widowers, never marrieds, bachelors and spinsters were not hit by single supplements when traveling and that there was a labeling redesign. One with dignity, one that empowers and delivers an acceptance of us all as being equal: one.” Victoria Alexander
Although One does address the one third of us who live alone, this book will also speak to those of us who share our living space with others or who have a partner in life. In the introduction of One, the author writes “Honoring and understanding oneself, and making the most of life.”
One spoke to me from page one. Although I live next door to my parents and share my space with my boyfriend, I am still a very solitary person. I have very few close friends, am shy, a homebody and a bit of a introvert. I also have experienced the contradictory and confusing pain of feeling lonely while in a relationship. Single people have said they sometimes feel they go unnoticed as the world assumes everyone is part of a pair. I’ve often felt invisible or less a part of a group because I’m not a mother.
As I paged through One, I could see the eloquent prose and images can speak to all of us regardless of what marital or relationship status box we check on a form. One can help us understand the “ones” in our lives but can also help us understand ourselves and value spending time alone. A few excerpts which apply to all:
“Value yourself….Get to know who you truly are so that you can share the best of yourself with others.”
“Sharing openly leads to appreciation and understanding.”
“A house that contains no sign of the individual who lives there is not a home.”
“The most mundane things can be beautiful.”
“Making a living is not the same thing as making a life.”
One is like no other book that I have in my collection. There is so much texture throughout, from the page edges, images and little surprises attached within.
The photographs show people, nature and beautiful objects from all different parts of the world.
One is a book that will never lose its place in my collection.
I had a difficult time finding One in the US so I purchased my copy from Amazon in the UK. Amazon in the US does have a few independent marketplace sellers now offering One.