I love reading blogs because of the appreciation for life, family and beauty in the everyday evident on many domains. I also enjoy the raw personal journal like entries which tell it like it is, no holds barred, of life’s challenges, with a dash of fuck you hard times because I will survive and live to blog about it. I adore the infographics, articles on marketing, business analysis and reviews about the latest innovation because I appreciate any opportunity to learn something new.
Reflecting on how blog content inspires me to have hope, be strong, be curious and feel passionate also serves as a reminder to me that attitude is everything. Just as many of us choose to be happy, there are many who choose to be unhappy. How do you choose to be unhappy? Here’s a no-fail recipe.
Never admit you were wrong, at fault or need improvement
Keep up that facade that you are never fully or partially responsible for an undesired outcome. Refuse to listen to any constructive criticism or accept any accountability for your actions or inactions. Who needs personal growth anyway? Cover your ass at every turn and watch your numbers grow (the number of people who don’t trust or respect you, sort of the anti-followers).
Don’t notice or care about the beauty in the everyday
Appreciating a sunset, rainbow and the smell of fresh basil is for sissies. The same goes for the very first bite of a delicious home cooked meal, the wag of a dog’s tail, the curve of beautiful molding and the smile of a child. Who has time to pay attention to all these little things when we could be bitching and moaning about all that ails us and how annoyed we are?
Be petty and spiteful
View every little transgression as monumental and refuse to feel any empathy or understanding for the one who didn’t include you, violated some sort of unspoken code or disagreed with you. Be petty, assume any small unwanted action or inaction is all about you. Be spiteful, smile and laugh when something bad happens to someone who is not your cup of tea. Share how unhappy and offended you are with anyone who will listen.
Hold a grudge
You had an argument, been treated unfairly or something didn’t go your way? Toss forgiveness to the curb and tell taking the high road to take a hike so you hold on to that hurt and anger. Refuse to speak to the other party but have plenty to say behind their back. Give the object of your grudge the silent treatment and make a strong effort to be unpleasant so you can revisit that angry feeling every time you see them.
Venting to everyone except the one who can potentially help you will ensure the situation causing you to be unhappy will continue.
Refuse to learn anything new
Hang on tight to what you already know to be true and reject any new information. Don’t learn any new skills, it is way too time consuming. Spend your whole life supporting your loved ones and their interests and activities, never develop your own.
Be intolerant and inflexible
Use up as much energy as you can keeping down those that are different than you. Let fear of change and the unfamiliar guide you. Let others tell you that someone who has no bad intent toward you is your enemy because they have a different way of expressing their spirituality, love or culture.
And finally, embrace jealousy and envy
Assume that neighbor, blogger or play group momma peer with the nice car, shiny hair and Chanel bag has the perfect life. People with nice cars and Chanel bags don’t ever have any problems, right? Always focus on what you don’t have instead of feeling gratitude for what you do have. Keep score and compare, always.
I’m no expert on happiness but my cracked glass is always half-full. Letting go of hurt and anger, forgiveness, being solution oriented and accepting responsibility are just some of the ways I try to stay on a positive path. I feed my spirit every day and believe that lifelong learning and personal development are so important. I appreciate my family, health and the beauty all around me.
I recognize that there are major life events that can affect us deeply. Financial difficulties, illness and loss of a loved one can cause a great amount of stress. My post is not meant to diminish or trivialize serious life challenges and the process we must go through to recover in any way.